IF you want to NEVER SLEEP ALONE (NSA), you must actualize (=) the principle of NO STRINGS ATTACHED (NSA).
You must be OPEN to every experience.
You must have NO EXPECTATIONS for any experience.
When you expect something from a person or a situation, you have a certain look on your face: The Look of Expectation. You look like a hungry, crippled dog, with drool dripping from your matted fur. Or a dirty beggar child with filthy fingernails and an asymmetrical face, BEGGING for nickels —
Where have you seen that look before?
You’ve seen that look before. You’ve seen it on that person who really wants you, who really needs you, even though you have no interest in them. It’s gross.
Neediness is the most unattractive quality in a human being.
But, when you allow yourself to experience something with NO EXPECTATIONS, you give off a special glow: The Aura of Experience. You appear otherworldly, beyond human, like Jesus Christ. Or a sexy female panther.
You have an inner peace. A sleekness and a sureness that drives the mere humans around you insane with desire and envy. It’s irresistible.
Before you begin your first NSA Challenge, I want you to decide who you are. Are you Jesus Christ? Or are you a sexy female panther?
Those are your only two choices. You may try both, if you’d like.
Either way, you are at ease in all social situations. You sit at the bar relaxed, needing nothing from the night, because you’ve spent your day accomplishing things in the desert. You maintain steady eye contact and have amazing posture, knowing that everyone around you wants desperately to reach out and touch your left flank. You expect nothing from the people you meet, because you are better than they are. You are either being kind and selfless, saying nothing about yourself as you talk to them about their issues and save them from eternal damnation. Or, you are sitting still, being strong and beautiful, watching them silently and resisting your natural instinct to rip out their intestines.
Tonight, go to a unique SocioSexual Watering Hole that you have never visited before. This could be a bar, a café with a bar feel to it, or a restaurant with a bar in it. Take a photo on the way in. Have no expectations.
Make sure you’ve just spent the day working, or had a very intense work out. Make sure you are very thirsty for a drink or very hungry for food. Sit down. If all the bar stools are taken, order a drink from the bartender, give a nice tip and a serene smile, and calmly ask him or her if they could let you know when a stool is becoming available because you’ve had an intense day and would love to sit down. Have no expectations.
Stay at this place for at least an hour and a half. Drink something, eat something, talk to people, if it suits you. Be sure to take your time, remember to breathe, and be conscious of everything you are experiencing. Have no expectations.
Look around and actually see your surroundings, actually hear the sounds that people are making, actually taste everything you put into your mouth. If you have extra energy, you can take out pen and paper and write me a long letter. If anyone asks you what you’re doing, smile benevolently, and say you are writing a letter to a friend. Enjoy the experience. Have no expectations.
When you have completed this NSA Challenge, write to me at DoctorAlex@NeverSleepAlone.com and tell me all about it. Be sure to include your photo.