1. DO IT AT YOUR PLACE So that you can control the lighting, music, health and hygiene of everyone involved. If you are homeless or live with your parents, make sure you always travel with candles, condoms, and cash, and always offer to buy some sort of sensual refreshment – ie: strawberries, champagne, peyote- on the way back to your PEEPs place.
2. MAKE IT ALL ABOUT YOUR PEEP(s)Your generosity from the inception of the sexual encounter puts the wheel of Sexual Karma in motion. When I am truly focused on pleasuring my partner, I often experience the TAO-
TAO=Totally Accidental Orgasm
ATTENTION! If you are a man and you know you orgasm very quickly, make it your priority to give your partner AT LEAST one MBO before you blow your load.
3. BE SAFE Make sure you KNOW everyone involved in the sexual encounter is of legal age, ask to see your PEEPs IDs, and ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!
4. DON’T TRY TO MAKE IT LIKE A PORNO Focus on making the threesome as sensual, magical and beautiful as possible. The amazing filth and kink and dirty talk and fluids-flying-everywhere will come naturally. And make sure your partners feel SAFE. ESPECIALLY if you are two men with one woman in an MMF situation. This woman is placing herself in a very vulnerable situation, being with you and your bro, so you need to repeatedly ask her is she feels comfortable. Because many threesomes turn rough (and that’s okay if everyone’s into it), I HIGHLY suggest coming up with a safe word before the sexual encounter begins, so that no matter how crazy it gets, you all know the definite “STOP NOW!” word. Check in with each other throughout the threessome to make sure everyone is physically/sexually/emotionally happy.
5. DON’T STAY WHERE YOU’RE NOT WANTED Sometimes, in the middle of a threesome, you will feel as though the other parties involved are paying absolutely no attention to you and you will begin to get the sense that they’d rather you not be there. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes, the chemistry is just off. And sometimes PEEPs will use you as a way to sleep with each other, either because they can’t admit their attraction to each other, or because they’re gay and closeted/Catholic, and they need an opposite sex go-between. Don’t take it personally. Wish them well, get the fuck out, and go find someone who wants you.