“If you build it, they will come.” Indeed. I learned this from a very nice boy from Napoli, after he reupholstered the interior of my car. (#thanksMMN) It will work equally well on males and females. Lay next to your partner in bed and say, in a soft, deep, and confident tone. “I bet I could give you an orgasm just by kissing you. But you have to keep your eyes closed and you have to stay completely still. You can’t move at all.”
Once they agree, begin to kiss them very lightly, first on their neck, and then plant soft kisses across their jaw line, on their cheeks, eyelids, and finally on their lips. Kiss their lips softly and teasingly for a minute or two, and then begin to lick their lips very gently. After a minute, increase the pressure slightly, as though you are trying to part their lips with your tongue. Continue this for another minute and then begin to French kiss them, softly at first, and then more passionately. Explore every part of their mouth with your tongue and lips.
Take your time.
Imagine that you are making love to this person’s mouth in a sensual, confident, slow, and masterful way. Imagine that your tongues are becoming one. Tune in to the Chemistry between the two of you and develop your own rhythm. If it helps, you can imagine that you two are both young teenagers at a sleep-away summer camp in New England and that this is your first sexual experience, or that you are Romeo and Juliet under a canopy bed in fair Verona, or Tristan and Isolde on the mossy floor of the forest of Morrois, or mean jock step-brother and shy bookish step-sister in the above-ground swimming pool at a trailer park in Maitland, Florida.
Whatever you are imagining, do not tell the other person in words. Tell them wordlessly, with your tongue and with your mind. They will begin to squirm about in intense ecstasy. If they try to move, hold them down gently with one hand and say softly, “Behave yourself. You promised not to move.”
After about five minutes, if they have not had an MBO yet, you can use your hand on their genitals in a slow, firm, yet gentle consistent manner, and/or guide their hand to their own genitals. Keep kissing them passionately and patiently, as though you never intend to stop until the day they die. They will climax within sixty seconds.